Mother’s Rights

May 12, 2007

Mother’s Rights

It was for some time that Zakariyya, son of Ibrahim, felt attracted towards Islam although his father, mother and all the family members were Christians and he too was the believer of Christianity. Both his conscience and heart were inviting him towards Islam. At last, against the liking of his father, mother and family-members, he accepted Islam and surrendered himself to the commandments of Islam.

The Hajj season commenced. Young Zakariyya left Kufah with the objective of performing Hajj and had the honour of meeting Al-Imam Jaffir As-Sadiq (AS) in Madinah. He narrated to Imam (AS) the incident of his acceptance of Islam. Imam (AS) enquired:

“What virtue of Islam attracted your attention?” He replied: “I can only say that it was Allah’s words in Qur’an which impressed me and holds true in my case. Allah says to his Prophet (SAW) in Qur’an: “O Prophet! Earlier you didn’t know what the Book is and didn’t know what the faith is, but We revealed to you this Qur’an and made it a light by which We guide whomsoever We wish.”

Imam (AS) said: “I confirm Allah has guided you.”

Then Imam (AS) said thrice:

“O Allah! You Yourself be a guide to him.”

Afterwards Imam (AS) said:

“My son, now whatever questions you have, asks me”.

The Youngman said: “My father, mother and family-members, are all Christians. My mother is blind. I am associated to them and I am compelled to eat with them. What am I supposed to do in such circumstances? “

Imam (AS): “Do they eat pork?”

Zakariyya: “No, O son of Prophet (SAW)! They don’t even touch pork.”

Imam (AS): “Then, there is nothing wrong in your association with them.”

Then Imam (AS) said: “Be careful about your mother’s health. Be kind to her till she is alive. When she dies, don’t give her body to anyone else. You personally take charge of her corpse.” Here, don’t tell anyone that you have met me. I will also come to Makkah. Insha Allah (Allah willing), we will meet in Mina.

In Mina, the Youngman went in search of Imam (AS). There was a huge crowd around Imam (AS).

The people, like the children surrounding their teacher and asking questions one after the other without giving any time, were asking questions one after the other from Imam (AS) and were listening to his replies.

The Hajj season came to an end and the Youngman returned to Kufah/Koofa. He had kept in mind Imam’s (AS) advice. With firm determination, he started serving his mother and never failed to be kind and loving to his blind mother. He served food to her with his own hands. He even used to check her clothes and head to see that no lice might be present. This change in the behavior of the son, mainly after his return from Makkah, was surprising for his mother. One day she asked her son:

“Dear Son! Earlier, when you followed our religion, you were not so kind to me. Now what has happened to you that though I and you are not the same in respect of religion, you are more kind to me than before?”

Zakariyya: “Dear mother! A person from the descendants of our Prophet (SAW) has told me to do so.”

Mother: “Is he himself a Prophet?”

Son: “No, he is not a Prophet. He is the son of the Prophet (SAW).”

Mother: “My son! I think he himself is a Prophet as this type of advices and preaching’s not given by anyone except the Prophets.”

Zakariyya: “No mother! Be sure that he is not a Prophet. He is the son of the Prophet (SAW). Basically, no Prophet is supposed to come to earth after our Prophet Muhammad (SAW).”

Mother: “My son! Your religion is very good. It is better than all the other religions. Teach me your religion.”

The Youngman told his mother the ‘Shahadatayn’ (meaning: “There is no god but Allah and Muhammad (SAW) is his Messenger”).

Thus, the mother became a Muslim. Then the Youngman taught his blind mother the process of reciting salat (prayer). The mother grasped it and recited the Zuhr (noon) and the Asr (afternoon) salats. It became night. She succeeded in reciting both the Maghrib (evening) and the Isha (night) salats. Suddenly, late in the night, the mother’s condition (of health) changed; she fell sick and got bed-laid. She called her son and said:

“My son, once more teach all the things you had taught me.”

Once again, the son taught his mother the Shahddatayn and all the principles of Islam, that is, belief in Allah, Prophet (SAW), angels, the Divine Books and the Ma’ad (Day of Resurrection) . The mother repeated all these as a symbol of her belief and acceptance and offered her life to the Creator.

In the morning, the Muslims gathered for giving her Ghuslul-Mayyit (obligatory bath to the dead) and her burial. The person, who recited Sulatul-Mayyit (prayer for the dead) and buried her, was none but her young son, Zakariyya.


Respect and Kindness to Parents

May 12, 2007

Respect and Kindness to Parents

Quran in several verse has advised people to treat their parents with respect and kindness. Here are the list of verses in which Quran has explained how to treat parents:

1- Chapter: 46 , Verse: 15

and we have enjoined on man doing of good to his parents; with trouble did his mother bear him and with trouble did she bring him forth; and the bearing of him and the weaning of him was thirty months; until when he attains his maturity and reaches forty years, he says: my lord! grant me that i may give thanks for thy favor which thou hast bestowed on me and on my parents, and that i may do good which pleases thee and do good to me in respect of my offspring; surely i turn to thee, and surely i am of those who submit

2- Chapter: 31 , Verse: 14

and we have enjoined man in respect of his parents– his mother bears him with faintings upon faintings and his weaning takes two years– saying: be grateful to me and to both your parents; to me is the eventual coming

3- Chapter: 29 , Verse: 8

and we have enjoined on man goodness to his parents, and if they contend with you that you should associate (others) with me, of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them, to me is your return, so i will inform you of what you did

4- Chapter: 4 , Verse: 36

and serve allah and do not associate any thing with him and be good to the parents and to the near of kin and the orphans and the needy and the neighbor of (your) kin and the alien neighbor, and the companion in a journey and the wayfarer and those whom your right hands possess; surely allah does not love him who is proud, boastful;

5- Chapter: 17 , Verse: 23

and your lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but him, and goodness to your parents. if either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) “ugh” nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word

6- Chapter: 2 , Verse: 83

and when we made a covenant with the children of israel: you shall not serve any but allah and (you shall do) good to (your) parents, and to the near of kin and to the orphans and the needy, and you shall speak to men good words and keep up prayer and pay the poor-rate. then you turned back except a few of you and (now too) you turn aside

7- Chapter: 6 , Verse: 151

say: come i will recite what your lord has forbidden to you– (remember) that you do not associate anything with him and show kindness to your parents, and do not slay your children for (fear of) poverty– we provide for you and for them– and do not draw nigh to indecencies, those of them which are apparent and those which are concealed, and do not kill the soul which allah has forbidden except for the requirements of justice; this he has enjoined you with that you may understand


Striking the Father

October 9, 2006

Striking the Father


Abu Quhafah, the father of Abu Bakr, was one of the enemies of the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.). Once, he abused the Prophet (s.a.w.) and so, his son Abu Bakr took hold of him and pounded him against the door.

When the news of this incident reached the ears of the Holy Prophet (s.a.w), he called for Abu Bakr and asked:

“Did you do such a thing to your father?”

Abu Bakr replied in the affirmative.

The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) then said, “Go away, but from now on, do not behave in this manner with your father.”

Daastaan-ha Wa Pand-ha, vol. 10, pg. 128; Wasaail al-Shia’h, vol. 1, pg. 115 (Old Publication)

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Rights of the parents!

October 9, 2006

Parents and children in Islam

Rights of the parents!

The Holy Prophet (SAWAW) said: “Paradise is under the feet of the mothers!”

In another prophetic traditon this idea is reinforced: “The pleasure of parents is the pleasure of Allah, and the anger of parents is the anger of Allah.”

He to whom is born a daughter and does not harm her, does not deny her, and does not favor his son over her, Allah will grant him paradise for her sake.
Imam Jafar Sadiq, the 6th holy successor of the Prophet

Amirul Momineen Imam Ali (AS) explained: “Honouring parents is one of the noblest characteristics.”

The sixth Imam Sadiq (AS) said: “Disobedience towards the parents is a heinous sin, for Allah has made the disobedient one rebellious and hard.”

He also proclaimed: “The mildest form of ill conduct towards parents is”uff!”, and if Allah knew something lesser than that, He would have forbidden it.”

Explaining the verse “And lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy”(Al-Quran 17:24), sixth Imam said: “When you look at them, do not fill your eyes with anything else but mercy and sympathy, and do not raise your voice above their voice, and do not put your hand above theirs, and do not go in front of them!”

Paradise is under the feet of the mothers!
Prophet Muhammad (pbuh&hp)

Commenting upon the ayat “And say kind words unto them,” Imam al Sadiq (AS) said: “If they strike you, say to them: May Allah forgive you both.”

Imam Sadiq explained: “If a person desires a long life and blessings, he must honor his parents and stay in contact with kin.”

The 8th Imam Ali Reza (AS) said: “The Almighty Allah comands that thanks be given to Him and to parents. Whoever fails to thank his parents does not thank Allah.”

Children’s Upbringing!

The Messenger (SAWAW) of Allah stated: “Be kind to your children, and excel in this kindness.”

He also said: ” Train your children in three things: The love of your Prophet, to love the Ahlul Bayt, and the recitation of the Quran.”

When a person’s son matures and he has the financial ability to marry him but does not do so, the boy will commit sin and the sin will be on the father.
Prophet Muhammad (pbuh&hp)

The Holy Prophet (SAWAW) proclaimed: “The parents must not be stubborn with their child just as the child must not disobey the parents.”

He also said: “Among the rights of the child over the parent are three: To give him a good name, to teach him to write and to marry him when he comes of age.”

Another hadith of Allah’s Messenger (SAWAW) states: “When a person’s son matures and he has the financial ability to marry him but does not do so, the boy will commit sin and the sin will be on the father.”

Imam Ali bin Abi Talib (AS) said: “Train your children to seek knowledge.”

Imam Sadiq (AS) explained: “A child plays for seven years, learns the Book for seven years, and learns the halal and haram for seven years.”

Sadiq-e-Aley Mohammed (SAWAW) also said: “He to whom is born a daughter and does not harm her, does not deny her, and does not favor his son over her, Allah will grant him paradise for her sake.”

Another tradition by him says: “Daughters are compassionate, always willing, and are blessings.”


Striking the Father

October 8, 2006

Striking the Father


Abu Quhafah, the father of Abu Bakr, was one of the enemies of the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.).  Once, he abused the Prophet (s.a.w.) and so, his son Abu Bakr took hold of him and pounded him against the door.

When the news of this incident reached the ears of the Holy Prophet (s.a.w), he called for Abu Bakr and asked:

“Did you do such a thing to your father?”

Abu Bakr replied in the affirmative.

The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) then said, “Go away, but from now on, do not behave in this manner with your father.”

Daastaan-ha Wa Pand-ha, vol. 10, pg. 128; Wasaail al-Shia’h, vol. 1, pg. 115 (Old Publication)

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